Before I begin my next post, I'd like to draw your attention to the left
sidebar. Yes, I've been posting photos
on Facebook, but the albums on the left are more complete. Plus: Now
with captions!
America has often been described as a melting pot: a massive conglomeration
of countries, people, and culture coming together to form the society that
exists today. (In fact, I accidentally
discovered that the Indonesian Sign Language gesture for America is basically
stirring a large pot...coincidence?) As such, I'm finding that it's rather
difficult to nail down aspects of "American Culture." It's actually a question I've been asked a lot, and it's made me question whether or not there
actually is such a thing. Sure, there's
Western culture, which include much of Europe , and that's easily classified
because many Asian countries have their own distinct cultures that can be
easily distinguishable from those of the
west. But every European country can
also claim their own cultural traditions.
Because of that, the overarching term "Western Culture" is far
too general to be descriptive. Now, the
funny thing is that many of those same European customs spread to America. Many Americans are very proud of their
heritage, European or otherwise. Nearly
everyone I know can rattle off whether they're "half-German,
half-Danish" or "A quarter Welsh, a quarter Irish, and half
English," or "A little of Italian, a bit of Irish, a lot of Polish,
and a smidge of gypsy". This,
therefore, gives them a chance to exploit those culture aspects to which their
heritage gives them an unquestionable right.
Perhaps the Irish in your blood gives you a bit more of an affinity for
Jack Daniels and Flogging Molly, or maybe your love of Italian food culminates
in your conviction that nothing can beat your Italian grandmother's tomato
sauce (I myself happen to fall in both categories.) But does that fall under the category of
"American Culture"? I'm inclined
to say no, it's only borrowing.
Ok then, so what is truly American?
Baseball? Sure. Cheesesteaks? If
they're from Philly, most definitely.
Apple pie? I guess, but only because all the songs say so. Look, here's why I'm trying to figure this
out: when it comes to culture and tradition, Indonesia is wealthy. There is a massive amount of tradition that
comes from Indonesia and stays in Indonesia and is embraced by all its
people. It's really hard to compare the
Melting Pot to a country that can so easily nail down what is its traditional
and cultural heritage. The entire time
I've been here, I've repeatedly heard how this dish is a traditional
food, and that's traditional music, and he's wearing traditional
clothing. Not that I'm complaining; I
love it and I find it fascinating. Here
are some of my favorite bits of serious culture I've encountered here.
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| This puppet was a gift from a friend. It is the character "Bima". |
Just for a second, I want to let my inner theatre geek run loose. I loved the Ramayana ballet in every way, but
even more so because of what you can see in this video. You'd never ever see something like that in
an American theatre. Something to do
with safety laws and fire hazards and probably OSHA regulations. So, for me, it was totally awesome.
I want to touch on the food, but only briefly because I still have trouble
remembering the names of everything.
However, there are so many traditional dishes or snacks, and most of them are very
regional. Yes, I know that we have
specialty dishes in America (Chicago-style pizza or Louisiana BBQ), but
Indonesia takes it to a whole other level.
I'll often hear that, for example, this particular way of cooking and
serving this particular meat is the traditional dish of this particular city,
or maybe even this other island. And
maybe you can find that dish everywhere, but its origin is always
recognized. Here's another example. When you travel to a different city, it's
customary to bring something back for your family or co-workers, and snack food
is a perfectly acceptable gift. It makes
it even better if the food is native to that city. Fortunately, it's fairly easy to ascertain
because it'll be written right across the packaging. Perhaps it won't be terribly different from a
similar bag of fried chips or baked chocolaty doughy thing from somewhere
else, but it will indeed have its own style, and therefore: Boom. Traditional
food of [insert city name here].
As you may have seen from my pictures, I've been able to attend several
wedding parties. Notice how I say
wedding parties, not just weddings...I'll explain in a second. As you might expect, Indonesian wedding
traditions are severely different from American traditions. (Side note: yes, I
do feel perfectly comfortable calling American weddings traditional, because
there is definitely a certain style and certain aspects that are present in all
American weddings.) Indonesian weddings
are cool and interesting because they have not only the official and religious
aspects, but also the traditional culture that plays a role. In the city of Semarang, it's Javanese
culture. That means Javanese dress,
food, customs, and ceremonies. The
easiest way to explain it is to take you
through it. Now, this was the procedure
for the first wedding I went to, but of course it may be a bit different for
others.
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| The bride (right) and her family the wedding eve. |
The night before the wedding is just as much a part of the celebration as
the next day. Chairs and food and music
will be set up in the tent (there's always a tent) for anyone who wants to drop
by. There are some small ceremonies that may happen, depending on the family or other circumstances, but a lot if it is just everyone hanging out. You'll probably run into the bride and/or
groom at some point, but not necessarily.
So the next day, the couple gathers with their families and close
friends at the mosque. Bear in mind
Indonesia is 80-90% Muslim, so this is probably pretty typical. I'll let you know how a Christian or Catholic
wedding differs if I have the opportunity.
Now, this time at the mosque is for paperwork and prayers. However, it's not a whole big thing. There
were only about 20 people there.
It was a simple, quiet half hour or so.
After the paperwork and prayers, pictures were taken with the bride and
groom (so many pictures, too many, in my humble opinion) and they drove
off...somewhere. I'm not sure. But everyone else went home until the wedding
party started an hour later. The wedding
party is the main event. While the
business at the mosque might last half an hour, the wedding party lasts 3-4
hours. It's the main event of the day.
It began with the entrance of the groom into the tent with his family behind
him. He met the bride in the middle of
the tent, and there were many words spoken that I had no hope of understanding
by two rather official looking gentlemen.
After that began the Javanese customs.
Unfortunately I couldn't see past everyone else gathered around, but I
did manage to see that the couple shared food and drink, and begged permission
from their parents, first from the bride's, then from the groom's. Then they took their seats on their thrones
(see pictures) and received guests. For
everyone else, this is when the eating and socializing begins in earnest. There's music (traditional, of course) and a
ton of food. The guests arrive and sign
the guest book, receive a party favor, and greet the families of the
newlyweds. They proceed to the throne to
greet and congratulate the bride and groom, and probably get a picture with
them. Guests can include not only
friends and family, but everyone from the neighborhood and friends of friends,
and maybe even friends of friends of friends, like me. One Sunday, two friends and I went to 3
different wedding parties, because one of them had received an invite, and it
was passed down the line to me. To be
honest, it actually felt a bit like grad party hopping. But the food was excellent and the
decorations and traditional clothing was
always beautiful.
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| The groom makes his entrance. |
So that's pretty much all there is to it.
Lot's of food, people, music, and photos. I do have one curious anecdote following the
wedding. A few weeks later, I was
visiting the neighborhood again and I met the couple on the street. After greeting me, the bride asked to touch
my nose. I was a bit baffled by the
request, but I don't really have a personal bubble, so I didn't mind. My friend explained afterward that if a
mother wants her child to have a certain aspect of someone she knows, she'll
want some sort of interaction with that person.
Maybe she'll get a picture with them, or touch the part of the body that
she likes. In this case, the bride
wanted her future child to have a nose like mine. (Apparently a lot of Indonesians enjoy the
sharp noses of Westerners.)
There's so much more I can talk about, but this thing is long enough as it
is. If you have any thoughts on my
ponderings about American Culture, leave a comment! Sampai jumba!




j. david, I just LOVE all your scenes and descriptions of the culture in which you are now living. The three plus years that I spent in the mid-east were just as amazing and enlightening as the events you have been describing. I found, as you have also by now, that all these experiences are soul-enriching: language, culture, the arts, the people. Think of you /pray for you often. With much love..... Padre
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